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Learning from Marriage
6/24/2017 5:51:00 PM by: Susan Lyttek

Today, as I write this, is the 34th anniversary since the day Gary and I eloped. We had a church wedding in the works (October 14th), but I had moved up to Michigan where Gary was stationed after college and hadn’t been able to find a full-time job. So he was supporting me on an E3 salary. It didn’t go far enough, but being married would add extra financial benefits. So both logically and emotionally, we went to the Justice of the Peace in Tawas City, Michigan, on June 24, 1983.

Biblically speaking, marriage is designed to teach. It teaches us about how we relate to God in a committed relationship. It teaches us about loyalty in the family of believers. Here are a few of the lessons it has taught me over the years.

  1. I am neither enough nor everything on my own. Or phrased differently, with my husband I become more than I am. It is strange math, but it works in both marriage and our relationship with God. Gary being part of my life makes me more than I am solo. He strengthens me where I am weak, challenges me where I need to grow, and steps in to help where I am lacking.
  2. Love is work. It doesn’t come easy, but it is definitely worth the effort. After a while, it becomes more natural to put the loved one first. Never easy, but definitely do-able.
  3. It’s too easy to take the relationship for granted. (We do this with God, too.) We believe the one we love will always be there for us. And while true, that is looking at the relationship through selfish eyes. We should focus instead on being there for them.
  4. Worked at love grows deeper, richer and more meaningful. You don’t think it’s possible when you first believe in God that you’ll love Him any more. When you first get married, you don’t think this overwhelming emotion is as strong as it gets. Both are wrong. Love intensifies.
  5. There’s always something new. It makes sense with God—He’s infinite, after all. But I’m still learning things about my darling hubby. Love makes every day new.

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